Family

I don’t often talk about family. I never have very much. Looking back, I think it had to do with the turmoil that has existed within my family, turmoil that I learned was I suppose easier to not discuss….with anyone.

With my parents divorce essentially finalized, and spending more time with my relatives, I’ve begun to really appreciate my family like I never have before. Tonight was my cousin David’s wedding. His wife’s family is one of the closest families I have ever met, and it made me think about my family. My personal relationships with my immediate family and extended relatives have blossomed over the past couple of years, and I couldn’t be happier.

In the past when my mother and I would come to South Dakota for my cousin’s weddings, I felt disconnected and out of place. Tonight was a much different feeling. I really felt a part of the family. I guess you could say that because I’ve spent more time over the past 7 months has increased my bond with them, but I think there is another factor that many people try to ignore: the positive effects of divorce.

Before my parents divorced, there was always a white elephant in the room whenever it came to family stuff. It didn’t matter if it was at home, visiting family, or even at my friend’s family events, I always had this black cloud over my feelings when it came to family. Now after the divorce has taken place, it really feels like that black cloud has lifted. I can openly talk to and relate to any and all of my family and not feel (as) awkward. I can only hope that this continues to get better and better as time goes on. (This might also help with my natural shyness when it comes to large group activities as well, which will be nice)